tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6221886899554221015.post7010443671456563200..comments2023-07-05T01:56:12.807-07:00Comments on Quiet Consecration: Oh Heck I blew it againLeslie K.http://www.blogger.com/profile/13309112557962726272noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6221886899554221015.post-81117953415647360242010-05-29T23:39:27.961-07:002010-05-29T23:39:27.961-07:00thank you, my friend. I know you know what I know...thank you, my friend. I know you know what I know...but I am trying to be the daughter/sister/friend/aunt people need rather than the one they want...and I would rather be happy than right.Leslie K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13309112557962726272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6221886899554221015.post-56574629958102126292010-05-27T08:34:19.657-07:002010-05-27T08:34:19.657-07:00When you have a conflict with someone, it's ve...When you have a conflict with someone, it's very consctructive for you to look inward and recognize whether your behavior contributes to a situation and I admire your ability to do that. However, some people are really good at making others believe that their anger is deserved because they did something wrong. Abused women and children always blame themselves but that doesn't make the abuse ok or justified. Someone screaming in your face, shouting obscenities in front of children, etc., is never deserved or justified. We all choose our behavior, and if that person is angry at something you did or said, there are big people words to use to discuss it and big people use some self restraint. I for one, am so happy to not have to deal with someone screaming in my face over every little thing (it was always MY fault) and walking on eggshells anymore because anything you say, can and will be used against you. Please stop blaming yourself for other people's bad behavior. You (no one) deserves that. There is an adult way to deal with conflict and you seem to have figured that out, but some people may never reach that level. Let's just hope the children follow your example...Beebohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10219784769343115570noreply@blogger.com